My best friend is married to an addict. They have kids. He’s been on drugs for 7-8 years & she’s always talked about leaving him. I’ve tried to help her. I helped her get a job, find a place to live, & watched her kids. Only for her to get back with him. He leaves the kids alone all the time for hours while she’s at work. The youngest is 2. He’s been in jail & on home confinement & nothing changes. Anyway, before Thanksgiving, I mentioned something to a coworker of hers (we all used to work together until I transferred out), not thinking anything about it. Well, the coworker told the boss and my friend got in trouble. She texted me, asked what I told the coworker & then said “don’t ever talk to me again”. She deleted me from all social media & I’ve not talked to her since. She did reach out on Xmas & tell me merry Christmas but I didn’t answer. Idk what the point of this post really is, but I’m tired of people making me feel disposable. Especially her. Every time her & husband would fight, she’d stop talking to me because she had to be mad at someone. I do miss her, but even if we started talking again, things would never be the same. I have so much less stress without hearing about her drama that’s the same now as it was 7 years ago.
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