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Feb 13

Admitting you need help

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I have never had issues with anxiety/depression. Once I finished nursing school and entered the real world and started my career is when I started to become triggered. I would like to say im pretty self-aware when it comes to noticing my faults and doing something about them. But as someone who takes care of other people, why have I become so hard on myself to seek my own treatment? It feels like defeat and that my problems are no where near comparable to the average person. I do not want to sit infront of the shrink about my daily life troubles or disturbances. So I sit home and dwell on the fact of my increasing feelings. I went to my primary doctor and he told me that I really need to seek help. I am scared. I dont want to go on meds. I dont want to burden someone else of my life issues. I hope soon enough I can make a change and step into the right direction and to feel better about myself for once.

I completely understand what you're going through. I have dealt with depression, severe anxiety and anger issues. A primary care doctor doesn't care about your mental health. They just shove all of that under a rug. I didn't want to see a shrink either. I hate talking about my issues and other things I'm dealing with. Let me tell you, it has helped SO MUCH. It's not as bad as you think it is. It's a stranger, they're trained to help with all kinds of mental issues. It helps soooooo much to get things off your chest. If you let it all bottle up, everything will spill out eventually, and probably not a good way. Don't let these issues take over your life. Seek some help, there is someone out there who will help. I hope everything goes well in future <3

Feb 13

They want me to see a psychiatrist.. im scared I wont connect well with one. I understand needing to shop around for the right person though

this is what I am going through RIGHT NOW!! Been battling since I was 13. Fought the fact I had to take meds and would go on and off until I accepted that that was just how I was wired. Tried therapy a few times and looking back, I didn’t find the right one . It’s soooooo hard to go in there and then ya do and you know it isn’t a fit. It takes what little energy ya have left in you to make the appointment and get there !!! Geesh. you leave feeling so so defeated. I decided at the end of last year I was putting all my chips in and gonna try one more time to find a therapist and counselor that work together rather than going to my family dr and tell him I cry all the time and he gives me something! Best thing I did for myself in a long time !!! I’m in a field where I help people as well, its what makes me tick because I felt and still do feel that I’m not worth fixing..... but I am and so are you!! You can do it and you are worth it!!! I’m screaming this from INDIANA!!!! If I could drive you and sit I waiting room until your appointment was over I would!!! Bless you’re heart. I’m a work in progress and still working on truly believing I’m worth it! I feel the best I have in over ten years! I will keep you in my thoughts !🙏🏽

Feb 14

I went ahead and made an appointment

YAYYYYYY!!! I know you don’t know me but I’m proud of you! Not easy to make that call!! I will send positive vibes that it’s a good fit and youll be on your way!!!

I am a nurse too and completely understand this! Does the facility you work at have an EAP program (basically therapy through the job that is free and confidential) and they can help you get set up with someone you would like in the community. And as far as therapists are concerned try a few out until you find one who works for you. It’s not always the first or second one. As nurses we will come in contact and see things that will affect us as humans, and we have a certain right to assure we are caring for ourselves too, so that we can give our patients the best care! Good luck! There is nothing wrong with seeking help! I’ve done it many a times!

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