I don’t know exactly where to start and every time I speak about this all I want to do is cry because I don’t know where in life I went wrong. I am 33 years old single mom of a 16 year old boy. I live at home with my parents and siblings and I am basically responsible for everything at home. Everything is always left up to me like the bills, the problems, everyone’s kids and there problems. Even when I am at work I am being called all day to handle things that someone else could handle. Now it is starting to take effect on my personal life. I have a good guy that I want to be with but was told by my dad if I did decide to do this I should stay with him and not come back home. And for me not to expect to even be able to come back and get my belongings. I don’t know how fair this is to me. So of course I had to cancel my plans and when doing that I informed the guy that I am talking to about my problem and now he is Upset with me. I know I need a life and I need to be happy but I don’t want to lose my family neither but all they are doing is holding me back for having a life of my own. When I say I am going to do something they are mad but if I stay home everything alright and I’m am constantly arguing with them and literally crying everyday. I force myself to go to sleep early each night so that everyone leaves me alone and I can close my eyes and just think and cry. Some days I just feel like sending them a text saying please don’t pick me up after work because I have chosen to have my own life. Only thing is that I don’t even have money saved up to do so because I’m to busy covering all he bills in the house. I come to work everyday with a smile on my face and help numerous people but I can’t seem to gain control and help myself out. I just don’t see how anyone could find it fair to treat someone like this and constantly see them unhappy.
I am currently raising a family members child. My husband and I have never been able to have children which has been crushing at times but we have made the best of it. Well about a year and a half ago my husbands cousin called me asking if I could take care of her son until she managed to get her life back in order, we had offered her this opportunity a few months before when she had been arrested but she totally blew us off. We agreed to on the condition that she signed custody over so we wouldn't end up with the back and forth of having him and than not. I didn't file the paperwork with the courts right away because 1 it's a lot of paperwork and 2 I was really hoping she would start getting it together. Then we got a phone call from CPS, child protective services, asking if hewasw with us and saying they needed to see him. We invited them out to our home and ended up doing a home visit with them that day. At the end of the visit we were informed that we needed to file the custody paper work immediately or they were taking him into custody and away from his home for the last month. So I filed and was required to put a restraining order on the mother in order to keep CPS at bay. This created hate in the family dividing it dang near in half. 3 months of court and constant hate we found out the mother was lying to everyone and using drugs heavily. My husband and I were granted full custody with the mother not recieving visitation. Within 2 months of our final custody court date the mother was arrested for selling drugs, she ended up spending 9 months in jail and 3 months in rehab. The hate is still there and she still doesn't have visits but I know the day will come when she tries to enter back into his life. I hate the thought of her disrupting his life, he was under a year when we picked him up and has no recollection of her that he has shown. I am his mom and my husband is his dad we are the only parents he remembers and I am fearful he will not adjust well if she reentered his life. I'm afraid to leave my home in case she sees us in public and creates a scene. My life as a mom to someone elses child has been full of so many emotions happiness fear thankfulness frustration gratitude and anger. More and more people are raising family members children and yet no one talks about it or the emotions surrounding it. We feel alone and like we have no support because it is so taboo to talk about but we aren't alone we just have to remember that. Being a mom to someones elses child is the most rewarding thing I have done in life so far