I have been in,a very emotionally abusive relationship for 10 years . I have not a single person left in the world I can call a friend. He made sure of that. We have two kids and live with my mother. I haven’t worked in 9 years, haven’t had a friendship in 9 years, have been isolated from my family, to the point I feel literally stupid letting any of them know the truth, including my mother who often takes his side. I have very recently made it clear to him that I will not be continuing the relationship And that the relationship is mentally abusive. So he comes to me today saying, he did ‘research‘ today on what mental abuse is and very vaguely said he accepts some blame for making me reach this all time low. However he then proceeded to tell me that he thinks I am also an abuser. And really just forced yet another apology out of me, cause he needed closure. And I told him I don’t feel I owe him closure because I have accepted the fact that it is something I will never get. But of course I am then guilt tripped and manipulated into once again apologizing for reacting to the abuse. So now he’s in the next room on his phone, with out a care in the world cause once again the blame has been shifted on to me. While I sit here absolutely devastated and full of anger because I let him cross my boundaries again. I don’t really know what I am looking for by sharing this. But I think I’m just looking for hope. He says he is making other living arrangements, which I should be happy about but now I am left with all this anger that he now gets to leave and live a bachelors life while I’m here with 2 kids, no job, no money, no friends, no one to confide in, no idea where to start picking up the pieces and over all just so alone.
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