When I was about 7/8 I was sexually assaulted & raped by my step-brother up until I was about 14/15 years old (I am currently 27). I finally got the courage to tell my parents it was happening at 15 and they didn't believe me, but I wasn't surprised. Thankfully when confronting him, he admitted to it...shocking, I know. We went to court and he got 1 year in jail..yepp just one....because my step-mom had talked me into saying that our family had suffered enough and that we needed to start the healing process and him being in jail longer would only postpone that. I was told not to tell anyone, not even my own mother, because that would only hurt our family and she "didn't deserve" to know what happened. He did his jail time and once my family noticed that his name would be in the paper, they decided it was time to tell the immediate family...but little did I know they originally told them that he had sexually assaulted a random girl at a party and that she had lied about the whole thing. I could not believe that that was the story they told them, I am absolutely furious about it to this day. When my grandparents found out the real story, on my Dad's side, they were supportive and there for me, they told me he would not be allowed at any more family functions, it made me happy. My grandparents, on my step-moms side, have yet to say anything to me about it. They also expect that my Dad and myself are completely comfortable being around him at holiday gatherings. They, along with my step-mom, think that we should be able to just get over it because it was such a long time ago and because I have already forgiven him. I am sorry that I can't get over it, I am sorry that I forgave him for myself and because I felt like I had to, I am sorry that apparently my comfort and safety isn't important to you...but mostly I am sorry that you can't understand what I went through for 7/8 years and how what he did has continued to have an effect on my life.
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