A quick breakdown of my life

joeygrey93 ♡ · 2019-01-15T02:20:27.651Z

Hi everyone My nickname is Jodz im a New Zealand born Maori/ Pacific Islander/Irish. I Married almost 4years ago to my wife whom i meet online. My wife is American and moved to New Zealand to Marry me 😊. I was blessed enough to go and meet her parents and huge family for the first time ast year and we stayed for 2months. I fell inlove with Delaware and we are already back in New Zealand building towards moving to the states asap. So she is definately my light my knight in shinning armour, my teacher of love and best friend. I am the youngest of 6 siblings and some of my story is one that is sadly something that is common in my cultural upbringing. My culture on my mothers side are known to have been brought up in poverty where alchole and drugs are the escape of there horrible pasts and the children sadly used for there entertainment from molestation, sexual abuse, violent brutality and rape. A vicious cycle that many of my people have experience in New Zealand. Has it changed?! Many are trying an many are speaking up and many have seeked help. Not all are saved but our people of multiple cultures are standing up so that is a huge change. So much had happened to me, but i was determined to make a change and difference and stop it from continueing amongst my 35 nephews an neices and great grandchildren. With the support an love an survival of all my siblings we have been successful in protecting our future. As for us siblings, 2 have passed and so did our Mum 😢. Everyone ran an went into survival mode and i stayed in NZ and still look after my dad. He is a Samoan man and his cultural upbringing was the oplosite to my mothers, long story short he is about how we look and appear to others, status is important and religion was in both my parents lives. Problem with my dad was he was a player and so was his dad. 8 different families so cultural they didnt fit the criteria of being snobs but they acted like it lol. So from my mothers side we learnt to stand and not feel to survive. From dad we learnt to be submissive an do as we where told. So as adults we all had to find who we were, some did an some still run and hide behind God. I have done, councilling, psychaitrists, angermanagement, wellness classes training for over 12years. I choose to not do medication so that is why my journey has been long with fails and ups an downs. I trained to be a Peer support for Mental health and those entering back into the workforce or life, but i found that that position triggered me, as you realise you cant save them all. First person you need to save is yourself and then you can help others if you wish, but never put your wellness at risk. Well thats alittle bit about me lol im blessed to have wonderful ppl in my life and knowledge is empowering. thankyou again to the angels behind this website, we all need to be heard and loved. Love an light everyone 💙💚💛

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