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Jan 29

In just 18 years.

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I don’t know where to begin with my story . There is so many different aspects to capture here . My start will be with the start of the downward spiral . In summer of 2014, my grandfather was diagnosed with stomach and colon cancer . Once his surgery was marked successfull, he began chemo & radiation . His whole live changed , he could no longer do any of the things he once enjoyed . I watched as his body grew weaker and his mind began to give up. In January of 2016 he was announced “cancer free” . But our celebrations were short lived . In May of the same year he was diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer. He did chemo and radiation again for a short time , but decided to discontinue treatment and go into hospice . I was then forced to watch my hero die , which finally took place June 10th 2016. That day my world changed . It took a long time for me to get the closure from his death . A few years actually , to this day I still don’t know if i have compelety came to terms with his death .

Now fast forwarding to 2018 , my senior year, i decide to come out to my friends and family . Always knowing I was gay , ever since i was little , but never being told it was okay to come out . Coming out was nothing huge , my friends didn’t care , the family that knows is accepting . There are still family members that do not know because i know they will not accept me with loving arms . But I hope to gain the stregnth to tell them all soon enough.

Staying in my senior year , this year has been the toughest . I had a teacher , who i trusted , abuse me in ways no student shouldn’t ever endure . I was abused for 2 years before i finally spoke out this year . On October 1st , my teacher placed both hands around my neck and chocked me until i could not breathe . He did it twice . This was not the worst he had done to me, but it was my last straw . The next day I go into my school admin to file my report . I was then given a meeting the following Wednesday to discuss my abuse . My school never did anything about my abuse . The told my abuser he was not allowed to come back for the rest of the school year but is welcomed back next school year . They swept my mental , physical , and sexual abuse under the rug to protect their own image . It’s now been 3 months and I took matters into my own hands with the help of a school facility member . I now am in touch with a detective and a lawyer and my voice will be heard and i will get the justice i deserve.

This isn’t all my story . But these are the biggest challenges i have had to come through, besides a suicide attempt freshman year , an abusive relationship sophmore year , a breast tumor that was finally removed in December 2018 , drug addicted family members , and then my AP class on top of an EMT class . But dispite everything , I am still here . I am still going . I will over come everything . Thank you for reading. And never give up.

It is so sad to read all that you're going through at such a young age - but I promise you, it will build tremendous character for the rest of your life. I'm glad you've taken matters into your own hands and are pursuing this legally. NO teacher, for any reason on Earth, should be touching you in such a way, and you are right for taking action. You should be able to trust in your educators for protection, but the lesson he taught you instead was that you can't always rely on everyone to do the right thing. As long as YOU continue to do the right thing, in each and every decision you make, you can and will rest assured that you're living your best life. As for your grandfather passing, I can tell you it gets easier as time progresses. I've lost all four of my grandparents to date, and at first, it felt unbearable. But as you continue to grow, you will come to terms with their passing, as they are simply indicative of life moving on. Grandparents are not here to stay forever, but their memories and the love they leave us with, are.

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